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Behind Every HR Desk Is a Story: Leadership Begins with People, Lessons from over Two Decades in Human Resources

People often think Human Resources is all about hiring people, processing payroll, approving leave and organizing training sessions. You know, the kind of tidy, predictable work that fits neatly into a job description and leaves you feeling pleasantly accomplished by 5 PM.

If only it were that simple.

After spending more than  two decades working in HR, I’ve discovered that no university course, professional certification or leadership seminar can truly prepare you for the surprises that walk through your office door every day. And I mean that quite literally, sometimes they walk in with their mother, spouse or children!.

Working in Human Resources means becoming part recruiter, part counselor, part detective, part mediator, part event planner, part lawyer and occasionally… part comedian. The comedian part is survival instinct, really. Because if you can’t laugh at an employee confidently explaining that “traffic ilikua mbaya,” you might find yourself crying into your third cup of coffee before lunch.

Behind every policy is a story. Behind every resignation letter is a conversation. And behind every interview is usually a moment that leaves you wondering, “Did that really just happen?” Followed by a quiet prayer that you kept a straight face.

While confidentiality remains one of the pillars of HR, there are plenty of funny moments that can be shared without naming names. These experiences remind us that we’re all human and sometimes the workplace provides the best comedy money can’t buy. Here are a few of my favourites, the ones that still make me smile when I think about them.

  1. The Candidate Who Interviewed Me Instead

I greeted a confident candidate and invited him to take a seat. He walked in with the kind of self-assurance that usually takes most people at least three promotions to develop. Instead of waiting for my questions, he leaned forward and asked, “So… why should I work here?

For a brief moment, I forgot I was conducting the interview. I actually caught myself mentally preparing answers, as if I were the one applying for the job. He continued asking about our culture, management style, promotion opportunities, leadership philosophy, employee wellness and even how often the CEO smiled, as if that were a key performance indicator I tracked daily.

By the end of the interview, I realized something important. The best candidates don’t just want a job. They want the right employer. And apparently, they also want to make sure the CEO’s dental hygiene is up to standard. It was a reminder that interviews should always be conversations, not interrogations. Also, this was a reminder to me to always have a few questions prepared in case the tables turn and I suddenly find myself on the other side of the desk.

  1. The CV That Listed ‘Time Traveler’ as Experience

Recruitment can be entertaining. One afternoon, I received a CV where the candidate claimed five years of experience using software that had only existed for two years. Either this applicant had discovered time travel in which case, I should probably hire them immediately for their groundbreaking contribution to physics or they had copied someone else’s CV without checking the dates.

I read it three times, hoping I had misread the software’s release date. I hadn’t. The candidate had essentially claimed experience in a skill that was older than the technology itself. Attention to detail matters. Recruiters notice far more than many applicants realize, including mathematical impossibilities that would impress even Einstein. I often wonder if that candidate is still out there, confidently submitting applications and hoping no one checks their math. Off course, as a good practice, I always give feedback to all my interviewees, I hope he learnt something!

  1. The Resignation Letter That Became a Thank You Note

One employee marched confidently into my office holding what appeared to be a resignation letter. He looked determined, the kind of determined that usually means someone has rehearsed their speech in the mirror and is ready to deliver it with dramatic flair. He explained every frustration he had experienced. He spoke for almost forty minutes. I listened, nodded and offered the kind of quiet understanding that only comes from years of sitting across from people on the verge of leaving.

We discussed possible solutions. He walked away smiling. A week later he returned. “I’ve decided to stay.” Instead of accepting a resignation, I received a thank you card. Sometimes employees don’t want to leave. They simply want someone to genuinely listen. It turns out that being heard can be more valuable than being promoted. Though the thank you card was a nice touch, it’s not every day someone thanks you for not accepting their resignation.

  1. Annual Leave Requests Have Incredible Timing

Nothing amazes me more than annual leave requests arriving ten minutes before an employee’s planned holiday. “Hi HR… I’m traveling tonight. Can you please approve my leave today?” The confidence is always impressive. The timing, however, is less so. It’s the kind of confidence that makes you wonder whether they’ve already packed their bags and are standing at the airport, refreshing their email and hoping for a miracle.

Planning ahead remains one of the greatest workplace superpowers. I’ve considered adding it to our list of core competencies. But I’ve also learned to appreciate the sheer audacity of these requests because, somewhere between the panic and the urgency, there’s a person who truly believes that HR works on demand. Maybe they also believe we have a magic wand. We don’t. But we do have a calendar and we’re not afraid to use it.

  1. The Employee Who Forgot They Were on Mute

Virtual meetings changed everything. One employee spent five minutes passionately explaining why the meeting should have been an email. The only problem? He wasn’t muted. The silence afterwards could probably be heard across departments. I could almost see the Zoom participants frozen in shock, some perhaps secretly agreeing with him but too afraid to admit it.

Fortunately, everyone laughed, including management. Sometimes honesty simply arrives earlier than expected. In this case, it arrived with the volume turned all the way up and no warning. That employee now triple-checks his mute button before every meeting. Some lessons are learned the hard way. Others are learned the loud way.

  1. “Denis, Do You Have a Minute…”

Every HR manager knows this phrase. It’s the most dangerous sentence in the English, Swahili or Sheng language. Someone enters your office. Boss, dakika mmoja tu.”

Forty-five minutes later… you’re discussing school fees. Land disputes. Wedding plans. Side hustles. Family meetings. Political opinions. The price of nyama choma in different locations. And somehow… the original reason for the visit has completely disappeared.

You’ve become a counsellor, a financial advisor, a marriage therapist and a political commentator, all in one sitting. And you haven’t even touched the issue they claimed they came to discuss. The phrase “dakika mmoja tu” is the biggest lie in corporate Kenya, right up there with “I’ll send that report by end of day.

I’ve learned to schedule buffer time after every “five-minute” meeting. Sometimes I even set an alarm. It rarely helps.

  1. The Office WhatsApp Group Detectives

Never underestimate a Kenyan office WhatsApp group. It’s more powerful than the DCI, more efficient than the Nairobi traffic police and gossipier than a group of aunties at a salon.

Before HR announces anything officially… someone already knows. Someone has screenshots. Someone has voice notes. Someone has “inside information.” Someone even says, “Mimi nilijua jana.” (I knew yesterday)

How? Nobody knows. Office intelligence travels faster than fibre internet. There’s a rumour network so efficient it would make telecommunications companies jealous. By the time HR sends out a formal email, half the office has already discussed it, analyzed it, formed opinions on it, and shared those opinions with their families and previous employees.

I’ve often wondered if these office WhatsApp groups have a secret leader, someone who coordinates the spread of information with military precision. Probably the tea station analyst. Those people know everything and you cannot fight them; they just create other secret cultlike WhatsApp groups you will probably hear about them 7-years later.

  1. Everyone Loves Policies…Until They Apply to Them

One thing I’ve learned is that employees appreciate fairness. Until the policy affects them personally. Then suddenly every policy deserves a special exception. “Yes, I know the policy says that, but my situation is different.” “I understand the rule, but I thought exceptions could be made.” “The policy is great for everyone else, but here’s why it shouldn’t apply to me.”

Good HR isn’t about pleasing everyone. It’s about treating everyone consistently. Fairness builds trust. Consistency builds credibility. Also, I’ve learned that every employee secretly believes their circumstances are unique. And sometimes they are. But if I had a coin for every time I heard “my case is special,” I wouldn’t need to work in HR anymore, I’d be retired on a beach somewhere, chuckling at the memory.

  1. The Candidate Who Brought Their Parent

Yes. It happened. A perfectly qualified adult candidate arrived with their mother. She waited quietly in the reception area, perhaps knitting or reading the office magazine, I honestly don’t remember, because I was too stunned to notice. Then halfway through the interview she politely knocked and asked, “How is my son doing?

We all smiled. The interview continued. It reminded me that confidence isn’t always visible and support comes in many forms. It also reminded me that sometimes the line between candidate support and interview chaperone can be blurry. I still think about that mother sometimes, the gentle concern in her voice, the way she checked in like it was the first day of kindergarten. She meant well. And honestly, the candidate was quite good. But I’ll never forget that interview for as long as I live.

  1. Every Office Has an Unofficial HR Department

Long before employees visit HR, they’ve already consulted their unofficial advisors. The office gossip. The tea station analyst. The security guard. The receptionist. Sometimes an entire investigation has already taken place before HR even receives the complaint. I’ve walked into meetings where everyone already knows the details of a situation, I’m supposed to be introducing for the first time.

Communication matters because rumours usually travel much faster than facts. They also travel with far more creative embellishments. By the time a story reaches HR, it might have grown two extra layers of drama and a surprising plot twist. I’ve learned to verify everything, trust nothing without evidence and appreciate the informal network that keeps offices humming, even if it occasionally makes my job more interesting than I’d like.

HR Isn’t About Rules. It’s About People.

After more than  twenty years in Human Resources, I’ve learned something that no textbook fully explains. Every employee has a story. Every conflict has another perspectiveEvery challenge presents an opportunity to build trust. Yes, there are policies. Yes, there are procedures. But behind every document is a human being trying to do their best.

That is what makes HR rewarding. And occasionally hilarious. Because when you look past the forms and the signatures and the compliance checklists, you find people with hopes, fears, dreams and sometimes truly terrible excuses for being late. You find the quiet employee who finally speaks up, the frustrated manager who just needs to vent, the nervous candidate who brings their parent for emotional support.

The Biggest Lesson of All

If you’re considering a career in Human Resources, prepare yourself for more than interviews and paperwork. Prepare to celebrate promotions. Support grieving families. Resolve misunderstandings. Welcome new employees. Encourage struggling team members. Celebrate milestones. Handle unexpected surprises.

If you’ve worked in HR, chances are you’ve smiled while reading this because you’ve seen at least half of these situations. Maybe you’ve received the famous traffic ilikuwa mbaya explanation. Maybe you’ve approved leave that somehow became a surprise vacation. Maybe you’ve survived the office WhatsApp detectives. Or perhaps you’ve been told, do you have a minute? only to realize lunch time has arrived.

Laugh often. Learn constantly. Above all, remember that people are wonderfully unpredictable. That’s what makes Human Resources one of the most challenging, meaningful and surprisingly entertaining professions in any organization. After more than two decade in HR, I can confidently say one thing. Every morning starts with a schedule. Very few days end according to it. And honestly… I wouldn’t have it any other way.

As we say in Kenya, Kazi ni kazi, lakini watu…watu ni stories. Work is work, but people…people are stories. And honestly? That’s exactly what makes HR one of the most rewarding careers anyone can have. Because where else would you get to be a part of so many lives, hear so many tales and still come back to work on Monday ready for whatever walks through your door?

Blog Written by Denis Nyongesa

Blog Written by Denis Nyongesa

CEO & HR ADVISORY LEAD


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